10 ways to Setting and Accomplishing Goals (Week 3)
I have had the most amazing opportunity this week to be surrounded by a very eclectic bunch of people. A group of over 200 mountain bikers made up of so many age groups, starting with a 15 year old young fellow who kicked butt. I must say, it is just wonderful to see a young kid with such a fantastic attitude just smashing it. Then, there are the 30 to 60 year olds who travel from all over the country to ride mountain bikes enjoying life to the fullest. It just amazes me and always puts a smile on my face. Age is no barrier to them. Not to mention the chicks who are kicking most of the blokes’ butts. This, I love to see. This bunch of lads and gals all enjoy relaxing at the end of a day, telling stories, giving a lot of stick to one another and having the occasional beer. They are a very casual bunch of people who are really out to have fun, and not take life so seriously.
Of course, in such a group, there is always one or two inspirational people who really make us realise how lucky we are to have the life we have. There was this one particular rider who rode all 6 stages over 4 days with just one leg. He weaved through the toughest terrain this country has to offer and watching him come in every day gave me goosebumps. It certainly puts things into perspective when someone with every right not to, puts in such a superhuman effort to overcome such harsh conditions. His perspective on life is truly amazing and we can all learn from that.
I have raced and been around racing for past three years now and it really doesn’t matter if you are in it to win it or just to get that feeling of satisfaction from just crossing that line. The one constant is the feeling of accomplishment. This is the same feeling as getting to the grand final or having a put medal around our neck at an event when you have worked so hard to get there. The fact is you made a goal and you achieved it.
Setting goals is more than just writing something on a piece of paper once a year on New Year’s Day. It’s something you need to be emotionally attached to. It needs to drive you. Need to lose weight? Need to win the championship? Need to run 5k? Whatever it is you want to achieve, staying the same needs to be more painful for you than making the change. You have to find your own tipping point, the point where moving forward becomes your only option.
And what does it all come down to? How much do you REALLY want it?
Goals – Look inside and find the emotion. What is it you want to improve on? Don’t just write it down. Envision it, feel it and plan the steps to make it happen. If there is too much happening in your life and you are overwhelmed, just start small and focus on one thing at a time.
Excuses – How many can we come up with? “It’s too early.” My personal favourite is, “It’s too cold!!” “I’m too tired”, “I’m stressed”. The list goes on. If you keep succumbing to excuses, your life will always stay the same. Something has to give and changing just one habit each week, can add up to a huge makeover within months.
Time management – To make it happen, having the right support is the big key. Sharing the domestic duties with others in the family will deliver a balanced home life, which is not only rewarding, but so much easier too. If you are starting an exercise program, going back to study or whatever your goal is, take some time to do the small stuff. Plan your meals. Go back to a chore list. They work for all family members. Put it on the fridge, make it fun and get some stickers. Adult kids like to be appreciated too.
Self Care – This is so important for your mental health. Give yourself at least half an hour in your day. It could be that time at the gym, the walk you have been putting off, the glass of wine with your friends or partner or that bath without the kids. Whatever it is for you, plan for it. Nothing is more important than spending time recharging your batteries.
Motivation – What are you passionate about? What or who inspires you? Read books, magazines or blogs from those who have accomplished what you are setting out to do. Cut them out, put it in a place you see every morning and night. This will remind you daily of why you have set this goal for yourself. Get excited, this drives your passion and takes away any negative self talk.
Set your intention – Make this a daily task and commit to it. Say it out loud to family and friends. Post it. Hold yourself accountable. Do weekly progress reports, because they keep your motivation high. You’ll need this anyway because your support network will be asking how you’re going. It doesn’t matter what intention you set, make it practical, plan it to fit into your lifestyle and don’t let it go on the back burner. This is IMPORTANT to you.
Support network – This is a must. Having someone by your side when things get tough can always move forward. This goes hand in hand with setting your intention. A good support network will help you find a way. Don’t forget the benefits of online forums either. They can be very beneficial in helping you achieve your end goal. After all, these guys are going through the same things as you. Reach out. That’s what they’re there for.
Keep Going – When life gets in the way and you just can’t see how you can manage or you’ve lost motivation, don’t beat yourself up. This is what life is all about, learning how to work through all the challenges. If this happens to you, just go back to 6 above and reset yourself.
The End Result – Think again about your finish line, your grand final, your garden transformed. Don’t think that it’s all too hard. Change your thought patterns and focus on just starting the exercise session. Stop procrastinating. You will be surprised at how much you will enjoy it. “A journey starts with one small step.”
Positive mindset – This goes without saying, “Get rid of the monkey chatter in your head.” Rid the negative talk from your vocabulary. When you start listening to everything you say or think on a daily basis, you will be surprised at how much crappy chatter you listen to. A good idea is to set an intention of a “negative free day”. Watch what you say or think for a full day and have no negative thoughts. This little challenge will blow you away. After you do this for one day, try it for a week and then a month. Put a smiley face on your calendar every day you do this. It makes you think literally.
Setting a goal is invigorating, exciting and gives you something to work towards. Setting small manageable goals to start with can lead into big goals you never thought imaginable. Once you make them a habit, it becomes part of life. Making just a 1% change in your life every day makes you stronger by 365% each year. That’s pretty good odds.
Trine Gall – Empower Me Health Coaching. For anything Health related I can be contacted via email@example.com